That's not a Dayse question...
Hello lovely people,
I know I should be making labels, cutting paper, putting Kindergarten names on popsicle sticks, making my toilet spider...but I just need a small break. It has been a long week and weekend. I think I deserve to blog today. LOL.
At any rate, as I've been working two jobs, and reconnecting with old friends, I've encountered some interesting questions and conversations. Is this the first time? OF COURSE NOT. THAT WOULD BE TOO NICE OF LIFE...It all started about three weeks ago, where I was first being asked the infamous question. Are you married?...(cordially) no. Do you have a boyfriend?...(getting a little annoyed) no. Do you have children?...(ok, this should be their last question) no. The responses after this have been on both sides of the spectrum...WHAT? or GIRL, GOOD FOR YOU! This is the never ending conversation starter for 95% of the people who meet me, and I've learned to tolerate it.
However, there are times when someone who has known me for a short period of time or not at all starts asking the difficult questions or giving the worst advice of life. For example, I went to visit someone in the hospital, and all of a sudden...the conversation goes from "Are you feeling better? I hope your recovery is quick and you can be home soon." To a total stranger telling me I needed to start praying for my other half, and I needed to build a family...not to mention ANOTHER STRANGER HAPPILY JOINED THE CONVERSATION...at that moment, I felt so awkward and personally attacked. I have always been taught that first impressions matter (especially as a young Christian woman)...well, I'm sure these men would have left that hospital visit with the first worst impression of me, if I had let them have a piece of my mind. The conversation lasted a good 10-15 minutes, and I took that as my cue to be dismissed from the visit. Sometimes, I wonder. Did someone write "DESPERATELY SINGLE" in permanent invisible ink on my forehead that everyone else can read? Because...I can assure you it's not the case.
Well that same week within the next 4 days, I was asked a total of 6 times about my personal life...THAT'S AT LEAST ONCE A DAY. ugh. It gets old. While I have learned to deal with it since my early 20's, I've realized that the questions they ask me, aren't really for me...they are just too scared to ask the questions to someone else. Ladies, why is it that men and women feel so comfortable to ask YOU if someone likes you...like...WHAT? Do I have mind reader written across my head? I was born with many God given talents, but that is NOT one of them. Besides, dating would be wayyyyy to easy if that were the case. LOL. Mind-reading would be GOLD for someone my age. HAHAHA.
When someone asks me...does so and so like you?...I just think, IS THIS A SERIOUS QUESTION? and my response is usually...THAT'S NOT A DAYSE QUESTION. Like, why don't you go ask so and so (we'll use Billy for these sake of keeping those names anonymous) if they like me. Why do you find it so hard to ask BILLY* if he likes me? The next question is...well would you marry Billy*...OK, LET ME BREAK THIS DOWN FOR YOU.
See in order for me to know if BILLY* likes me, Billy* has to gather the courage to tell me. In order for me to consider Billy*, Billy* has to ask me if I'd give him a chance. In order for me to be married, Billy* kind of has to get to know me first, build a relationship, and then propose. Finally, in order for me to have kids, BILLY* has to marry me so that we can start to build a future. It's not like I'M going to ask BILLY* if he likes me. I'm also not gonna ask BILLY* to marry me. I'm old school in that aspect of my life.
So....YOU SEE, THOSE AREN'T DAYSE QUESTIONS. To all of those people who want to know Billy's* thoughts, please contact Billy*. LOL.
This doesn't mean that I'm opposed to the idea of Billy*, or love, I just think people don't realize how irrational these questions can become. Trust me. If and when you find out Billy's thoughts, please feel free to share them with me. I'm a strong believer that there is a time for everything, and God's time is perfect. If I'm not married or with children, it's not that something is wrong with me or those Billy's*, it's just that God doesn't have it in His will right now. So, please...give me a break and let me live a little, and send me a prayer for my future Billy*. In due time people...in due time, if there's anything I've learned out of this whole process it's that PATIENCE IS VIRTUE. Thanks!
OK, BACK TO PLANNING FOR MY KINDERGARTEN BABIES. :) <3
Eternally grateful for no more of these questions,
Dayse
I know I should be making labels, cutting paper, putting Kindergarten names on popsicle sticks, making my toilet spider...but I just need a small break. It has been a long week and weekend. I think I deserve to blog today. LOL.
At any rate, as I've been working two jobs, and reconnecting with old friends, I've encountered some interesting questions and conversations. Is this the first time? OF COURSE NOT. THAT WOULD BE TOO NICE OF LIFE...It all started about three weeks ago, where I was first being asked the infamous question. Are you married?...(cordially) no. Do you have a boyfriend?...(getting a little annoyed) no. Do you have children?...(ok, this should be their last question) no. The responses after this have been on both sides of the spectrum...WHAT? or GIRL, GOOD FOR YOU! This is the never ending conversation starter for 95% of the people who meet me, and I've learned to tolerate it.
However, there are times when someone who has known me for a short period of time or not at all starts asking the difficult questions or giving the worst advice of life. For example, I went to visit someone in the hospital, and all of a sudden...the conversation goes from "Are you feeling better? I hope your recovery is quick and you can be home soon." To a total stranger telling me I needed to start praying for my other half, and I needed to build a family...not to mention ANOTHER STRANGER HAPPILY JOINED THE CONVERSATION...at that moment, I felt so awkward and personally attacked. I have always been taught that first impressions matter (especially as a young Christian woman)...well, I'm sure these men would have left that hospital visit with the first worst impression of me, if I had let them have a piece of my mind. The conversation lasted a good 10-15 minutes, and I took that as my cue to be dismissed from the visit. Sometimes, I wonder. Did someone write "DESPERATELY SINGLE" in permanent invisible ink on my forehead that everyone else can read? Because...I can assure you it's not the case.
Well that same week within the next 4 days, I was asked a total of 6 times about my personal life...THAT'S AT LEAST ONCE A DAY. ugh. It gets old. While I have learned to deal with it since my early 20's, I've realized that the questions they ask me, aren't really for me...they are just too scared to ask the questions to someone else. Ladies, why is it that men and women feel so comfortable to ask YOU if someone likes you...like...WHAT? Do I have mind reader written across my head? I was born with many God given talents, but that is NOT one of them. Besides, dating would be wayyyyy to easy if that were the case. LOL. Mind-reading would be GOLD for someone my age. HAHAHA.
When someone asks me...does so and so like you?...I just think, IS THIS A SERIOUS QUESTION? and my response is usually...THAT'S NOT A DAYSE QUESTION. Like, why don't you go ask so and so (we'll use Billy for these sake of keeping those names anonymous) if they like me. Why do you find it so hard to ask BILLY* if he likes me? The next question is...well would you marry Billy*...OK, LET ME BREAK THIS DOWN FOR YOU.
See in order for me to know if BILLY* likes me, Billy* has to gather the courage to tell me. In order for me to consider Billy*, Billy* has to ask me if I'd give him a chance. In order for me to be married, Billy* kind of has to get to know me first, build a relationship, and then propose. Finally, in order for me to have kids, BILLY* has to marry me so that we can start to build a future. It's not like I'M going to ask BILLY* if he likes me. I'm also not gonna ask BILLY* to marry me. I'm old school in that aspect of my life.
So....YOU SEE, THOSE AREN'T DAYSE QUESTIONS. To all of those people who want to know Billy's* thoughts, please contact Billy*. LOL.
This doesn't mean that I'm opposed to the idea of Billy*, or love, I just think people don't realize how irrational these questions can become. Trust me. If and when you find out Billy's thoughts, please feel free to share them with me. I'm a strong believer that there is a time for everything, and God's time is perfect. If I'm not married or with children, it's not that something is wrong with me or those Billy's*, it's just that God doesn't have it in His will right now. So, please...give me a break and let me live a little, and send me a prayer for my future Billy*. In due time people...in due time, if there's anything I've learned out of this whole process it's that PATIENCE IS VIRTUE. Thanks!
OK, BACK TO PLANNING FOR MY KINDERGARTEN BABIES. :) <3
Eternally grateful for no more of these questions,
Dayse
Comments
Post a Comment